News that in my home state of Arkansas they are trying to get a law in effect that will keep all co-habiting (i.e. not married) couples whether they be gay or straight from fostering or adopting children. John Brummett, columnist extraordinaire, wrote a very good opinion piece about this.
Trying to keep gay couples from adopting or fostering has been around for years but this new co-habiting heterosexual couple thing just annoys the hell out of me. Even though I’m married, what is to say a co-habiting couple down the street cannot raise a child as well as my husband and I can? Why are married couples so freaking great? Take yesterday’s post about the moron in Arkansas who threw her 4-week old child across the room. She was married. How is she fit to be a parent to any child, adopted or not, but John Doe and Jane Deer next door are not simply because they aren’t married?
Ooooooh, the Evangelical Christian right-wing nuts get me so riled up!!! Furthermore, Brummett accurately points out that this law would keep “co-habiting couples engaged in a sexual relationship” from adopting or fostering. How does that work? Do you appoint a court official to reside in the home for a few days to see if they have sex? No, because they’d be on their best behaviour (if you will). Ok, so do you place someone across the street to spy on said couple to see if they’re having sex? No, that’s an invasion of privacy. Where does it end?
Christians are supposed to be compassionate to all people. Why, when there are so many horrible people in this world who are NOT fit to be parents can’t they get off their high horse and allow a non-married gay or straight couple to adopt or foster a child? There are plenty of people in these types of relationships that are dying to have children but can’t for whatever reason. Why should the state deny them the ability to look after a child; to love it and care for it and raise it as their own simply because they aren’t married or are gay? It angers me so much. It really and truly does. Plenty of gay or co-habiting straight people are fit and able to care for a child just as well as a married couple any day.
If this goes on the ballot in November you can guaran-damn-tee I won’t be voting for it. My friends in Arkansas, please consider it carefully before you vote.
“yesterday’s post about the moron in Arkansas who threw her 4-week old child across the room.”
Rumor has it that the case might be dismissed because the woman’s husband was on parole or something and is pretty much an untrustworthy loser. There was no evidence of injury in the kid either (prior or otherwise). SO, just from what I have read and heard I tend to side with mom. I mean, how can a mom hurt a little bitty baby. I know it happens but I am going to give her the benefit of the doubt. BUT, the kid might be hurt worse someday and then I would feel like shit. Which is why I no longer have an opinion on this matter. The end.
Also, if you are a good parent I don’t think it matters who you have sex with. Look at Rosie O’Donnell. She is gay and I would like her to be my mom. Thus, I agree with you.
You are so right!!! That is just crap! What about all of the idiotic people such as Lily’s biological mother who don’t give a crap about their kids? People have to have a license to operate a car but anyone can go have sex & “raise” a child! Why does it matter if you’re married, gay, etc to be able to adopt & LOVE a child!!!!!!?????!!! You bet I will be voting against this if it comes up on the ballot.
I know many couples that “live together” who are better parents than a lot of married couples I know.